While many people cannot wait to live by themselves after a separation or divorce, the reality is often striking. Whether you remain in the marital home or find a new dwelling, living alone after divorce has its positives and negatives. On the plus side, you can make your own decisions about where to live and decorating your space. On the downside, everything is now your responsibility. If your former spouse was handy and you are not, that may mean you either learn how to fix the minor problems or hire someone who can do it for you.

Protecting Yourself

Those newly living alone must concern themselves more with safety than they did in the past. If living in the former marital home, it is wise to change the locks if you want to make sure your ex-spouse cannot enter the home on their own. You will want to upgrade your security all around, including the installation of a home security system and outdoor motion lights if you do not already have them. If you do not have a dog and have the time for one, consider getting a canine to warn you if someone is near your house, and to keep you company. Taking your pet out for regular walks is a good way to meet new neighbors if you have relocated.

You may also want to take a self-defense class so that you can protect yourself in case you are attacked. What you do not want to do is advertise the fact that you are living along on social media. For your own safety, do not let those outside of your closest circle of friends and family know you are living by yourself.

Make Yourself Comfortable

Whether you are still in the former marital home or have moved, make your home comfortable and suitable for your needs. Unpack boxes so you do not look like your life is in transit. Perhaps hire painters, or take it upon yourself to give the walls fresh, new colors. Purchase plants, new towels, bedding, and other items that personalize your home.

Get Yourself Out of the House

While it is important to establish a routine as soon as possible when you live alone, it is also critical to get yourself out of the house and interact with others as much as you can. When you live by yourself, you can easily find yourself becoming lonely. Join community groups for tasks that interest you or find volunteer work that you enjoy. You can make new friends and rebuild your life as a single person.