Holidays are among the minefields that divorcing parents negotiate. Halloween, perhaps more than some other major holidays, is one that is and should be all about the children. Trick or treating, candy, and the anticipation of choosing a costume make it an exciting milestone for school-aged children. In many communities across the United States, it is observed both at school and at home, which means divorced parents need to decide in advance how they will share the day. Keeping it as low-stressed as possible is something to consider as Halloween approaches.
Tips for Sharing the Day
Celebrating holidays and birthdays during divorce involves a new way of doing things that both parents must successfully manage for their child’s best interests. Divorcing parents need to consider that maintaining a sense of normalcy is critical, especially for younger children. It is important for the child’s emotional well-being that they understand traditions, such as holidays and birthdays, will remain a happy occasion.
Communication is key. While major dates may already be decided upon, do not forget to include Halloween in the divorce and custody planning. Communicating in advance rather than leaving it to the last minute is clearly a better way to discuss options and come up with a mutual solution.
Some parents who have split up in a relatively amicable way will choose to go out together with the child. For schools that have a Halloween tradition, such as a parade or festivities to which parents are invited, it can be helpful for the child to have both parents present. For the nighttime tradition of going door-to door, parents who can put aside any tension for a few hours may decide this is the solution.
In cases involving a messy divorce, some may decide to split up the day, much like other holidays. If parents live close enough that this is feasible, they can each take the child out for part of the evening. If this is not doable, consider splitting the holiday on alternating years. Others will decide that a two-day holiday makes the most sense in their situation. Parents can work to make each day different but fun with activities and treats, and it gives the child an extra day to continue the Halloween festivities.
Remember that in all child matters during a divorce, it is critical to put the child’s interests first. A tug of war has damaging effects and it is up to adults to ensure that their child knows that they are supported and loved, despite the change in living situation. If you are divorcing, be sure to get the experienced advice of a divorce lawyer who is skilled in matters of family law and child custody.
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